We had a nice valentines celebration with the co-op we attend. I tried to help the kids have a positive experience. On Monday we built mail boxes that P got for the girls at the hardware store. We painted them. M got in trouble for playing around with a paint brush and her deaf brother who couldn't hear her joking. We made valentines for all the kids we hoped would be there.
Last night M decorated a nice paper bag at church. It was a nice bag.
This morning we wrote their names on the boxes with glue and put glitter on it. It was awesome. 10 minutes before we get in the car M says she wants to use the bag instead. Unlike the Halloween costume drama, I just said "No". I put the mail box in the car, and we went to group.
I spend a lot of time talking to M and lP about choosing a husband worthy of them. We discuss things they don't like in friends, that are mean, and how they don't have to hang out with people who are mean to them. I really, really, want them to understand that if they are not being treated well, they do not have to marry someone.
I don't like it when the kids change their minds at the last minute over things that are not life and death. Halloween costumes, Valentines boxes, change your mind, fine we aren't going to the party. But in love and eternity, be very careful where you heart rest. I hope they have the courage to try and try again to find someone who loves them enough to have an eternal marriage. Saying you love someone is not enough. The Savior said; "If you love me, keep my commandments." Similarly, I hope my children will learn that they must not marry someone who will not keep God's commandments. That is such a basic foundation for trust.
